(Hubby could remember the big date easily since his birthday is on 12.03 and we were married on 03.12. Lucky me, alhamdulillah!)
We went to Nikko last weekend for sort of anniversary celebration in advance, since we had already made all the necessary preparation - guest house booking, basic itinerary, food buying, etc. More on that later.
Initially I'd wanted to blog about the moments just before I was pronounced a legally wedded wife three years ago. But with Tok's death - it seemed rather insignificant. After all, we had only been married for three years where as Tok married Tok Ayah when she was 14 and he 22, and they remained faithful to each other until their last breath - she at 76 and he at 69.
But given another perspective - that my own parents were divorced (for the first time - they were divorced three times) even before their marriage reached 2 years old, remaining married for three years seems like an accomplishment of sort.
Well, which ever it is, I am happy to be with the man I married, proud to be the mother of our children, and hope that we will keep loving each other.
Loving as in the verb - not just the feeling. Stephen Covey once wrote "Love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is a fruit of the verb." What constitutes this verb of love then? To serve, sacrifice, listen to, emphatize, appreciate, affirm. Among others.
Rasulullah s.a.w. used to keep himself busy serving his family, and would get up for solat only when it was time to do so. He used to mend his own clothes, and do other household chores. And he claimed that the best among the Believers are those who are best towards their wives and daughters. (Sometimes, all these are conveniently 'forgotten' to be highlighted in ceramah on the rights and duties of husbands and wives in Islam.)
But of course, it is not all one way. After all, Rasulullah had also stated that the best wife is one who is attractive in her husband's eyes, who carries out his wishes, and remains vigilant in his absence. Husbands and wives are garments for each other - to offer protection, comfort, modesty and warmth. To complement and supplement each other.
Marriage is a tool for two interdependent people to achieve greater things in life. 1 plus 1 after all, does not necessary equals 2. In the past three years, in our case, 1 plus 1 has already equalled 4!
Happy 3rd anniversary, sayang.
May we keep loving each other for many years to come, insya Allah!
On the night of our akad nikah
On the eve of our third anniversary
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